How to Win Friends and Influence People
Six Ways to Make People Like You...
Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
1)"Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere."
2)"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
3)"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
I agree with Dale Carnegie on this rule. The way to get close to people and influence people is by not talking so much about yourself to others. People naturally like talking about themselves but if only they stopped and thought about getting to know someone and asking questions. You learn a lot about a person by asking and getting to know them. They key would be not just asking random questions but asking questions that include their opinion or details or views about something or someone. I think this a great way to make people like you because it shows that you're genuinely interested in what they have to say. It says that you don't just talk about yourself all the time. And that you're willing to hear what other people have to say about themselves. It isn't always about talking about yourself and bragging about things or whatnot but actually being interested in a person and what they think and feel.
"Be genuinely interested in everyone you meet and everyone you meet will be genuinely interested in you."- Rasheed Ogunlaru
Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
1)"Do this and you will be welcomed anywhere."
2)"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
3)"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
I agree with Dale Carnegie on this rule. The way to get close to people and influence people is by not talking so much about yourself to others. People naturally like talking about themselves but if only they stopped and thought about getting to know someone and asking questions. You learn a lot about a person by asking and getting to know them. They key would be not just asking random questions but asking questions that include their opinion or details or views about something or someone. I think this a great way to make people like you because it shows that you're genuinely interested in what they have to say. It says that you don't just talk about yourself all the time. And that you're willing to hear what other people have to say about themselves. It isn't always about talking about yourself and bragging about things or whatnot but actually being interested in a person and what they think and feel.
"Be genuinely interested in everyone you meet and everyone you meet will be genuinely interested in you."- Rasheed Ogunlaru
The way that I will apply this to my life is by asking more questions to people and not talk about myself, start with asking questions about them.
Rule 2: Smile
1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
I think this is a great tip from Dale Carnegie on how to win friends and influence people. If you smile it lets people know that not only you're happy but that you're open for conversation. And then people will want to talk to you. By smiling it won't show or give that impression that you're angry at the world or that you're mad. A smile can give off positiveness and give off positive feelings. Like carnegie says if you don't feel like smiling, then force yourself to smile. If you're having a bad day, you should force yourself to smile because it really does make you feel better. You can trick your brain into thinking that you're happy, and your mood will change. So you should force yourself to smile even if you don't feel like it. Wherever you are, whether it's in your home, or work it is always great to smile. It will bring more positive things in your life.
"I think that anybody that smiles automatically looks better." - Diane Lane
Rule 2: Smile
1) "Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3) "It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
I think this is a great tip from Dale Carnegie on how to win friends and influence people. If you smile it lets people know that not only you're happy but that you're open for conversation. And then people will want to talk to you. By smiling it won't show or give that impression that you're angry at the world or that you're mad. A smile can give off positiveness and give off positive feelings. Like carnegie says if you don't feel like smiling, then force yourself to smile. If you're having a bad day, you should force yourself to smile because it really does make you feel better. You can trick your brain into thinking that you're happy, and your mood will change. So you should force yourself to smile even if you don't feel like it. Wherever you are, whether it's in your home, or work it is always great to smile. It will bring more positive things in your life.
"I think that anybody that smiles automatically looks better." - Diane Lane
The way that I will apply this to my life is by smiling more, and smiling more when I don't want to or feel a certain way. Smiling more in general because I feel like I don't do that enough.
Rule 3: Remember Names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
One good way to make friends and influence people is by remembering names. It is crucial when meeting someone important or just anyone. If you don't remember names then it just says that you weren't listening. People like hearing their name being heard, according to Carnegie, so don't put yourself in a position where you forget someone's name.
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage other to talk about themselves.
1) "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
2) "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems that he is in you and your problems."
When speaking with a person you aren't going to be having a conversation and not listen to them. They'll only dislike you because you don't pay attention. I think this is a good tip from Dale Carnegie to win friends and influence people, because nobody wants to be ignored when talking. The more you listen and are attentive the more that they'll want to talk to you. So when having a conversation with somebody, always listen to what they have to say. Also one thing that people love to do, is talk about themselves. Any opportunity they get, they'll start talking about themselves. So when meeting someone new, always ask about them. Don't just talk about yourself and/or brag. Maybe you'll learn something new, if you ask and also be attentive to what they have to say. So always ask about others, what they like to do, etc. You'll win a friend and you'll be able to influence people. So follow Dale's advice and do it, because it'll result in a positive outcome.
"Most of the successful people I've known are the ones who do more listening than talking." - Bernard M. Baruch
Rule 3: Remember Names
1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
One good way to make friends and influence people is by remembering names. It is crucial when meeting someone important or just anyone. If you don't remember names then it just says that you weren't listening. People like hearing their name being heard, according to Carnegie, so don't put yourself in a position where you forget someone's name.
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage other to talk about themselves.
1) "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
2) "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems that he is in you and your problems."
When speaking with a person you aren't going to be having a conversation and not listen to them. They'll only dislike you because you don't pay attention. I think this is a good tip from Dale Carnegie to win friends and influence people, because nobody wants to be ignored when talking. The more you listen and are attentive the more that they'll want to talk to you. So when having a conversation with somebody, always listen to what they have to say. Also one thing that people love to do, is talk about themselves. Any opportunity they get, they'll start talking about themselves. So when meeting someone new, always ask about them. Don't just talk about yourself and/or brag. Maybe you'll learn something new, if you ask and also be attentive to what they have to say. So always ask about others, what they like to do, etc. You'll win a friend and you'll be able to influence people. So follow Dale's advice and do it, because it'll result in a positive outcome.
"Most of the successful people I've known are the ones who do more listening than talking." - Bernard M. Baruch
The way that I will apply this to my life, is by listening more attentively and not getting distracted by what someone is saying. Also, by asking more about people and not just focusing on myself.
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Dale Carnegie suggests that you talk about what the other person's interest are. Instead of meeting a person and going directly into talking about you or anything else, it's best to talk and ask about their interests. They'll know that you're interested in knowing about them and they'll want to talk to you and get to know you. I think that Dale carnegie's advice for this is good. I think people want to get to know you if you seem interested in them. So always talk about what other people's interest are, it might actually fascinate you and you might learn something.
"I'm still passionately interested in what my fellow humans are up to. For me, a day spent monitoring the passing parade is a day well spent." - Garry Trudeau
The way that I will apply this to my life is by being interested in what other people want to do.
Rule: Make the other person feel important-- and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."(John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
One thing you can do to win friends and influence people is by making them feel important and doing it sincerely. Dale Carnegie says that the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature. I think it is true because everyone wants to feel important and that they are important and being appreciated. I think that whenever you meet someone always make them feel important and that whatever they have to say or think matters. I think that it will make them trust you and like you. Helping people feel important and appreciated will win you friends and help you influence them too. It makes you seem like a very caring person who doesn't just care about themselves. This makes people want to talk to you because it seems like you really do care. And you should, you shouldn't fake caring about what they tell you, it has to be sincere because that's wrong. So always be sincere about what you say and make people feel important and appreciated.
"Every single person is sacred. Sacred means special, precious, a treasure of true beauty. That means you."- Amy Leigh Mercree
The way that i will apply this to my life is by making other feel important and appreciated and be sincere about it.
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Dale Carnegie suggests that you talk about what the other person's interest are. Instead of meeting a person and going directly into talking about you or anything else, it's best to talk and ask about their interests. They'll know that you're interested in knowing about them and they'll want to talk to you and get to know you. I think that Dale carnegie's advice for this is good. I think people want to get to know you if you seem interested in them. So always talk about what other people's interest are, it might actually fascinate you and you might learn something.
"I'm still passionately interested in what my fellow humans are up to. For me, a day spent monitoring the passing parade is a day well spent." - Garry Trudeau
The way that I will apply this to my life is by being interested in what other people want to do.
Rule: Make the other person feel important-- and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature."(John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
One thing you can do to win friends and influence people is by making them feel important and doing it sincerely. Dale Carnegie says that the desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature. I think it is true because everyone wants to feel important and that they are important and being appreciated. I think that whenever you meet someone always make them feel important and that whatever they have to say or think matters. I think that it will make them trust you and like you. Helping people feel important and appreciated will win you friends and help you influence them too. It makes you seem like a very caring person who doesn't just care about themselves. This makes people want to talk to you because it seems like you really do care. And you should, you shouldn't fake caring about what they tell you, it has to be sincere because that's wrong. So always be sincere about what you say and make people feel important and appreciated.
"Every single person is sacred. Sacred means special, precious, a treasure of true beauty. That means you."- Amy Leigh Mercree
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